The Reason For This Blog

couple1Thank you for stopping by.  I really mean that.  There is a purpose for this blog.  Seriously.

This blog is one half helping you as much as possible NOT to make the mistakes that I made in the saving of my marriage.  And the other half is a selfish one on my part, but please hear me out.

This other half is healing for me.  While, you may be saying to yourself “what the heck, your marriage is saved, why are you STILL trying to heal?”  And believe me, when I was in your shoes all I wanted was to have my marriage back.

However, many people told me to prepare myself for the reconciliation process and still having to heal from some of the wounds that came about during the separation.

I have sat in your seat.  Read hundreds of posts online of how someone saved their marriage.  Trust me, I know the feeling all too well.

I know that feeling of waking up in your parent’s house because you moved out.  The look of pity from them and sometimes anger at the situation.

I know the feeling of dragging yourself to work and having to pretend that you were okay.  Then losing a bunch of weight and people asking what was wrong.

I know the feeling of helplessness.  Making call after call, email after email and reaching out, only to be met with no response from your spouse and hearing them say “stop contacting me, it’s over.”

I know the feeling of getting divorce papers and wondering what I was to do.  That knot in your stomach that won’t go away and wanting to just shrink and go away.

I know the feeling of wanting to end it all, so you could end all of the pain.  Thinking about the letter I would write and the words I would say.

I know the feeling…

I just want YOU to know that I have walked that road.  I have been through the pain, but have come out victorious.  Now, I don’t know what is in store for you or your marriage.  I just don’t, but what I do know is that there are things that I did to ensure that no matter the outcome that I would alright.

And a lot of it had to do with my faith.

Now, you may be asking yourself why name this site “How To Get The Girl You Want?”

Simple, because once you do what you need to do and become the guy that she wants, THEN you’ll get the girl you want.

And in the end, the girl I wanted, was my wife.